Andrew G Marshall

Author & Marital Therapist

A fresh perspective on affairs

When you are caught up in the middle of affair, it is very difficult to know whether you are experiencing true love or something else – pumped up by all the secrecy. But instead of taking my word for it…… here´s some thoughts from someone ho has been there and read my first book : I love you but I´m not in love with you:

I have been with my husband for 13 years (married for 5) and have a 3 year old daughter.  My husband travels the world through his job while I work at home. In 2009 I had a 10 month affair with my boss. It was true love and worth ditching my unfulfilled marriage for…until I read Andrew’s book. What an eye opener the book is and explains so much about the stages of relationships. It is taking time and a lot of effort but I am finding my way back to my husband, even though I am still in limerence with my boss.  One love is starting to fade and the other is beginning to repair stronger than it was to start with. I am so happy and grateful that I found this book and that Andrew took the time to write it.  Many thanks Andrew xx

My thanks to the poster for sharing her experiences. If you´re in limerence with an ex and want advice on how to switch off those mad feelings, there is an exercise that might help in: How can I ever trust you again. If you have something to share yourself about ILYB, click on the button on the left hand side.