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Hi Andrew,
I saw the article in the Guardian and thought wow this is definitely a book for me so I have purchased the book. In the mean time I would like to get some advice from you.
I am 36 year old female. I have never been in a full length relationship. I have dated once or twice but it has never flurished to anything further. My last boyfriend we were together for nearly 1 year after dating for 3 months we moved in together after 6 months the financial crisis hit and we parted as he couldn’t pay rent. So we moved out he lives with his parents and I had to move in with my mother.
My parents are divorced and they live a pretty amicable live we meet up for special occasions or family dinners. My sister got married 1 year ago and has a baby. Her life is going well and I am very happy for her. I am must say I am jealous. I want to have a relationship that results in love, marriage, and kids. I feel I am running out of time for love and children.
I try going out on dates but they ones I meet off the internet only want sex and I am not looking for one night stands. I feel depressed at this situation I am in. How can I find love and move forward in my life?
Hope to hear from you
Regards
Andrew writes:
I’m glad that you’ve found my book and hope it’s proving useful. You will read that I’m not surprised that Internet dating isn’t working for you. I don’t think it works for many people. Worse still, a lot of people take it personally and think there’s something wrong with them.
You’ll also see that your parent’s divorce might be casting a shadow (although as they get on well today, hopefully not too long a one). So use this opportunity to take control. Make peace with the past (see Chapter Two) and start improving your social capital (Chapter One) and start meeting the right sort of people.