Ask Andrew – 287
Dear Andrew,
I’m 26 years old, I never grew up knowing my father, I grew up with my mum my older brother, and her two ex husbands, I once opened my heart to the wrong person, who cheated on me, abused me, took me for granted, I have now been single for 4 years, I know that my ex is happily married with the woman he cheated with me.
I do not blame myself or anyone for the wrong choices that I have made in life, I has been a long journey to heal my heart and my trust, now I’m going to hit my 27th b-day I no longer want to be doing ever thing Solo, I would love to share my life with other individual who understands.
I tend to end up being the mistress of other men or the side dish, Why is this, I’m honest with them, I do not know
all the men I end up seeing, end up finding someone and getting married to them, unlike me, I just sit on my own and stare into space and wonder what’s wrong with me, Where I’m I going to wrong.
I just want to feel loved, Is that too much to ask for…….
Andrew writes:
No. It’s definitely not too much to ask.
The good news is that you’ve identified that your missing father is at the bottom of this problem. If your mother has two ex-husbands, there were probably some unhappy scenes when you were growing up which have not helped either.
While we’re sticking with the good news, twenty-seven is a great time to change all of this (as I often think we don’t become true adults and know ourselves until this age). One more positive….. it’s four years since, you had your heart broken and time will have done some of the healing.
So please read the ‘Single Trap’ understand how to work on yourself, so that you start attracting happy balanced people (rather than someone on the rebound or only interested in a fling) and have a mutually satisfying relationship together.
Good luck.
