Ask Andrew – 289
Dear Andrew,
My husband and I are still together, but he has expressed that he is numb and has no feelings. He also said that he loves me but doesn’t think he’s in love with me, and doesn’t know if he wants to remain married, and doesn’t want to work on our marriage.
This is all very recent ( 1 month) and whereas before, he was always extremely affectionate and loving, now there is no physical closeness. Would the book “ILYBINILWY” be helpful if it appears I’m the only one who wants to save our marriage right now, i.e., he probably won’t even be willing to read it?
Andrew writes:
You should most definitely read the book. Firstly, you will not feel so alone and unsupported. Secondly, you will read the stories of lots of other people in just the same situation who have found love again.
Finally, the programme can work even if your husband is not reading it – because by changing yourself, you will be changing the dynamics of the relationship. After all, just because he’s lost all hope in the future does not mean that you have to roll over and play dead too.
