Ask Andrew – 308
Dear Andrew!
I am a 34 years old girl who lives in Poland. I am a pretty, fit and optimistic person but somehow after my last relationship which lasted almost 9 years I can’t start a new one.
It seems that I attract the same type of men all the time. I am very sensitive and fall in love quickly.
Sometimes I feel like a trophy on the wall of all men I have met for the last 2 years.
I am very active and full of life person, I am very spontaneous and it causes problems sometimes.
I have started to believe that my relationship fit some kind of cliché. I meet young, sporty independent men who are fascinated by me and they regard me probably as an independent woman who does not need any relationship. They start to date me and as soon as they realize that I really need a man full time they break my heart and escape. Each time in the beginning I hear lots of promises and warm words which make me believe that their intentions are good but when I finally give in into it they dump me. I sometimes analyse my behaviour and think that I am to good and willing for them. I want to do all my best and they have everything they want and it stops attract them.
I’d love to read your book and find the solution to my problems but unfortunately it’s still unavailable on Polish market. I’d be grateful to hear any counsel from you.
Best wishes
Andrew writes:
Congratulations on your English and such a thoughtful letter. Whenever you find yourself having the same relationship but with different men, it is time to stop and think why.
It sounds like you are someone who ‘over-commits’ and throws yourself into a relationship (before you truly know the men in question) and that you’re attracting men who ‘blow hot and cold’. These men are keen when you’re distance and blow hot, when they realise you’re interested they blow cold instead. I explain why this happens and how to break the pattern in the Single Trap.
In an ideal world, the book would be available in Polish (but so far it’s only in French and Italian) but your English is good enough to read it the original. In some ways, English being your second language might be an advantage. Lots of people fly through my books so quickly, they don’t stop and truly digest the message. This won’t be a trap that you’ll fall into.
Good luck
