Dear Andrew,
I’m reading ILYB because my husband had an affair with a work colleague who’s also married, (her husband doesn’t know). He says he wants to stay with me but I feel at the moment that it’s only because it’s less drama to stay than leave. He’s admitted that he loves her, [...]
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Dear Andrew,
I have written to you before and got very good advice. I have read how
can I ever trust you again, which helped me greatly.
My husband had a 6 month affair which ended 15 months ago. We have got
to the bottom of our problems, talked over and over again, moved house
to [...]
Dear Andrew,
I recently had the ILYB talk with my husband, and have been finding your book really helpful. A lot of it has really been ringing true for me.
The problem really started about 3 years ago. Our relationship was very close (actually too close) and I barely had any other [...]
Dear Andrew,
I found out that my boyfriend of 3 years is online dating other women
He has had a girl friend from a particular country and is continuing to
date the same nationality, as if he is obsessed with them.
We do not live together, we are the same age, I am 3 weeks older, like
[...]
Dear Andrew,
I have been with my husband for a long time and I found out 5 years ago that he had an affair with a work colleague. She had a baby from this relationship. Initially my husband wanted both of us to show “a united front” and go to the hospital after the child was [...]
Dear Andrew
My husband came out with ILYB just over 2 months ago now. We have been together 10 years and married for 5 and have a 3 year old son. At least I think it was a ILYB. He said he loved me deep down but didn’t have the spark any more and didn’t know [...]
Dear Andrew,
My husband and I have found your book, How can I ever trust you again, invaluable. Only eight weeks ago I discovered he had been having an online relationship using Skype and email with someone he met on business overseas in 1997 and with whom he connected with as a [...]
Andrew
I have read both ILYB and HCIETYA and have found them incredibly useful.
My situation is this…
About 3 months ago my husband of 5 years (partner for 10 years) told me ILYB. Since then he has slept with an ex-girlfriend twice - supposedly both drunken and “didn’t mean anything”.
It would appear that my husband had not [...]
Dear Andrew,
What I don’t know how to do is leave. It’s what he asked me to do and I have no other home to go yet.
From numerous other women at the office to a choice to live with a female relative instead of me, while forcing me to live overseas, after 15 years, I think [...]
Hi Andrew,
I just bought your book HCIETYA, and am half way through it. I had been with my huxband for 17 years, married for 9 of them and we have 2 children, aged 16 and 9. He was my first love, first everything!! I havent always been happy in our marriage, but [...]