Learn to Love Yourself Enough
Bloomsbury Publishing, February 2011 Buy
Are you your own greatest critic? Do you have low self-esteem? Have you ever thought that if people knew the real you, that they would think less of you? Does life feel an uphill struggle because nobody – not even you – is truly on your side? If any of this sounds familiar, it is time to take a fresh look at the most important relationship of all: Your relationship with yourself.
In this practical book, I explain how loving yourself enough leads to better relationships and stops you from zig-zagging between boosting yourself up (often to unsustainable heights) and becoming overly critical. In particular, I cover:
- Why old pains can still cast a shadow today and how to make peace with your past.
- The types of thinking that sabotage and make life harder.
- Why modern life is making it harder to have a balanced opinion of ourselves.
- How to develop a positive mind-set.
- Increasing your self-confidence.
Who will find this book useful?
This book, more than any other in the Seven Steps series, is aimed at everyone. It will help you feel comfortable in your own skin and make peace with yourself. This is a vital first step to making peace with your partner or if you’re single getting into a positive space where you will attract other positive people.
Full disclosure
When I wrote the first half of the Single Trap – which is all about working on yourself – I realised that it would be useful for couples too. All too often, people think working on their relationship means getting their partner to change and if he or she is reticent or ‘quite happy thank you’, it is easy to despair. However working on yourself will change the dynamic in your relationship and encourage your partner to behave differently. So if you’ve read the ‘Single Trap’ you will recognise quite a lot of the material. However, there is new information about re-programming an internal critical voice, how to conquer fears and deal with set-backs.
“Many of our most difficult problems come from trying to ignore or take short-cuts round more simple ones.” Andrew G Marshall
