Guardian: ‘Wonderfully comforting…… someone has just made sense of me’
For the full review and to read about journalist Hannah Booth’s experience of being counselled by Andrew: www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/feb/13/better-relationships-hannah-booth
Evening Standard (London) ‘An insightful guide’
While the East Anglian Daily Press looked at four ‘dating’ books and had the following to say about my book……
‘A straight talking book that refuses to sugar coat the truth of why you might be alone. Andrew G Marshall uses his twenty-five years of experience as a marital therapist to look at underlying trends - why it’s becoming harder to meet people - and what you are personally doing to stop it. Marshall asks you to take a long hard look at your decisions and behaviour. His guide to revealing your flawed psyche is easy to follow with each chapter ending in a brief summary followed by exercises.’
Meanwhile, here is some feedback from readers:
Hi Andrew,
Just read the single trap. Its the first book in my life that i have read
in a day. Jesus where has this information been all my life.
I’m 38 a successful confident business man who has a poor
self image and the projection thing blew my mind.
thanks for your time
Gary
Next a review by ‘thirty-something’ off amazon:
“This is the best book on relationships I have ever read (and I have read a lot!). It is not a book about ‘dating’, which is a real positive, as many books I have read about male/female relationships are about ‘how to play the game’. This book is about being comfortable with yourself and being ready for a relationship. When you are ready, it advises on the best way of meeting (and recognising) someone else in a similar space. There is little point in trying to form a relationship until you are both in the right place - sounds obvious, but I am sure a lot of us having wasted time trying to make relationships work when the timing is wrong for one party.
The book is practical and pragmatic, with lots of examples of individuals of different ages and in different circumstances (divorced, children, widowed etc). I found the fact that it was written someone who lives in the UK meant that it was much easier to relate than some of the very US-centric books on relationships I have read. Having said that, the advice would benefit anyone from anywhere across the globe.
The book is very well written. I can’t recommend it enough - I couldn’t put it down. Thank you Andrew G Marshall - I wish I had read this book ten years ago!”
Here is another male perspective from Chris in Nottingham - once again from amazon:
An absolutely brilliant book, refreshing, readable and practical. I’m a 38 year old single man and I recommend it to all single men and women. In fact, I think some of my couple- and married- friends would benefit from it too.
The author is a counsellor with Relate, and I read this book after reading one of Relate’s books “Better relationships”, which is a very good read too. If I had to read just one though, I would read “The single trap”.
The book is very well written and researched. The author presents a wealth of experience, thoughtfulness and insights and lots of interesting real life stories. The writing is very down to earth and readable. I couldn’t put it down; I just read it from cover to cover in two days (took two afternoons off work!) and I’m going straight back to page 1 to start again.
The key messages in this book resonate with my experiences in relation to dating, mini-relationships and to socialising more generally. The book is honest, truthful and practical and puts it all in perspective. Like many singles, I’ve gotten caught up in the gimmicks of dating, but this book puts them in to context and compares them with other more effective and straightforward ways of meeting people and finding love… and enjoying life whatever happens.
Being keen to take on board and use some of the simple yet powerful ideas in this book, I went out last night in a more confident and positive frame of mind to enjoy just ‘mixing’ and the results were fantastic. That is the power of this book; it helps you to challenge your thinking and look at yourself and the world in a slightly different way. It does this in a very effective and focused way without lots of complex psycho-babble.
Where other books seem to say “you just need to change everything about yourself to be successful with women” this book helps you to recognise your strengths, recognise your vulnerabilities, and understand the basic skills of communication and co-operation.
Fellow men - ignore the front cover and buy it and read it. If you want a proper relationship, this is the book to read (and not the other nonsense that’s out there…).